Standing on my Soap Box

This will be a hard post to write! But considering the season, it might be fitting.

My son came into my room a few months ago, his girlfriend wasn’t feeling great the week before – nauseous, flu like, ucky. When I asked him that day how she was, he said that she was taking pills for it. You know the kind of medication that had a picture of a pregnant woman on it, because she was… pregnant.

Heart stop! Mind racing! I was at a loss for words. (Imagine me without words!)

Ummm, how do I handle this? UGH! We have cautioned him; keep the two of them under watchful eyes when they were in our house. How could this happen (Yes, I know HOW it happens hence why I didn’t say how did this happen, I asked how COULD this happen). My first response was that they needed to get married at the end of the month – June. The next day, once I regained a level head, I told him that they needed to wait. Getting married because of a baby was the wrong thing to do.

But what is the second thing I did (again once I regained a level head)? I told him I loved him. All of my boy’s lives, I have told them that it didn’t matter what they did in life, that I would love them. This new addition to the family wouldn’t change that for my son; now not, not ever! We would love this baby, regardless, as he was our grandbaby. We just didn’t like the way that he came about. (Yes, ultrasound has shown that He is a he.) Our son got married in November to our new daughter-in-love (daughter in law sounds so harsh). The wedding took place at our home with family around. We are now weeks away from holding our grandson, and let me tell you, I CANNOT WAIT!

Am I happy that all of MY dreams (notice I said MY dreams) for my son are on hold? No! Am I happy to be a grandma while I am still in my 40’s? No! But again, I love my son! It is my duty, my right, and my PRIVILEDGE, to support him and his new wife in any way that I can. He was given to us (as were our other sons) by God, and our responsibility is to be the best parents we can be. Are we perfect – NOPE. We are however family. We will continue to look forward, love our kids, that now includes one more, and our upcoming grandson.

This being said, at the end of November, there was a Focus on the Family Minute on CHVN. The speaker, Liz spoke about Mary. She was actually a teenage girl who became pregnant under less than ideal conditions. The Lord knew what He was going to do for Mary, it all hinged on trust, timing, and tenacity. Liz talked about seeing Christmas through the eyes of Mary. We don’t know what God will bring about in our lives (or the life of our Grandson), but we can live with the peace that He loves us, and we can trust Him.

So that being said, my grandson is not: a mistake, a problem, a burden, an inconvenience, a nuisance, an accident, or a punishment! He is a MIRACLE, and we will celebrate him!

Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born I set you apart, Jeremiah 1:5