How does the celebration of Christmas change as we get older? As I reflect on that this Christmas, it seems that while some of the changes are a natural part of adulthood and responsibilities, perhaps the scales have tipped too far in one direction.
As I move through adulthood more and more time is consumed with the preparation for Christmas than with the anticipation of it. There are gifts to buy, people to see, events to attend and “to-do” lists to be checked off before the big day arrives.
That is in sharp contrast to my four-year old son, Malachi, who is fully consumed by both the anticipation of Christmas and the wonder of it. He is absorbing it all. Every house that has Christmas lights is “beautiful” and every nativity scene elicits excitement. Unencumbered by the responsibilities of adulthood, for him, Christmas is a time to be fully enjoyed and not rushed.
My son’s anticipation of Christmas helps me remember back to my own childhood. The wonderment of participating in Christmas programs at Pansy Chapel, topped off with a treat bag filled with peanuts and candy. The pictures with the shopping mall Santa, which were times of both excitement and nervousness. And of course, the Christmas morning rush down the stairs to see what gifts had found there way under the tree.
Not every Christmas as a child, youth or adult is the same. Like every family, there were some years that were difficult for us. Most notably, the year that my father passed away when I was 11 years old, was a difficult time. Often, Christmas can become filled with the thoughts of those who are no longer here to celebrate with us or those who are struggling in one way or another. But even through the most difficult times, there is always something special about the Christmas season, even if it’s a bit harder to see.
And for me today, as I watch my son’s eager anticipation of Christmas, it is a reminder for me that while there are things to be done and responsibilities to be met, Christmas should be more about anticipation than preparation. The anticipation of time together with family. The anticipation of a time when we can reflect on all those things which we are fortunate to have, even though our lives may be touched with difficulty. And most of all, the anticipation of remembering and celebrating the true meaning of Christmas and the miracle of the very first Christmas.
Together with my wife Kim and our family, I hope that you will be filled with the anticipation and the miracle of Christmas. May the warmth of this special time of year be a joy and a comfort to you. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
